What Do You Do?
What do you do when two of your good friends who also happen to be a couple have a fight and both comes to you for some advice?
I'm in that bind right now. The guy has admitted that it is his fault but since he is as much as a good friend of mine as the girl, I can't help but give him the benefit of the doubt. I know him. His reputation precedes his true character and that I say is the reason why he gets into these kinds of trouble in the first place. It doesn't help either that their relationship is hidden from the world. To the rest of mankind, they are both single, willing and available when in truth, they are already man and wife.
Complicated.
Very complicated.
I feel for both of them. I actually just cried a while ago when I read his last message on his progress (on his none progress in fact) on winning my sister back (I call her sister cause we practically are). She still doesn't want to talk to him. I cried because I understand where both are standing and coming from. I cried because I feel angry and frustrated that this has to happen to them. They've already been through so much.
*sigh*
The only advice I gave my guy friend is to wait. Wait until the time she is ready to face him again. Wait until the wounds have had the chance to heal. And he gladly said that he would. Even if it takes forever. I know he can. He has waited for her for four years he embarked on their relationship with her. I'm confident that he will wait his lifetime for her. Just for her. Because there is really no him without her.
And for the girl, I told her this when she said she wasn't sure that she could give him the chance to explain..."I understand completely. All I'm asking is that you hear him out. You can decide better when you're fully informed. A picture can say a thousand words and it just might happen that you are reading wrong ones. It is in silence that the deepest feeling are heard. But silence gives way to many unbidden thoughts to surface and haunt you. Hear the silence not the fears. Find the right words in thousands that the picture holds. That is all that I ask."
As for my ender, I told them both that they can see each other perfectly only when they perfectly see their imperfections.
I love you P & T!
Very much so!
I'm in that bind right now. The guy has admitted that it is his fault but since he is as much as a good friend of mine as the girl, I can't help but give him the benefit of the doubt. I know him. His reputation precedes his true character and that I say is the reason why he gets into these kinds of trouble in the first place. It doesn't help either that their relationship is hidden from the world. To the rest of mankind, they are both single, willing and available when in truth, they are already man and wife.
Complicated.
Very complicated.
I feel for both of them. I actually just cried a while ago when I read his last message on his progress (on his none progress in fact) on winning my sister back (I call her sister cause we practically are). She still doesn't want to talk to him. I cried because I understand where both are standing and coming from. I cried because I feel angry and frustrated that this has to happen to them. They've already been through so much.
*sigh*
The only advice I gave my guy friend is to wait. Wait until the time she is ready to face him again. Wait until the wounds have had the chance to heal. And he gladly said that he would. Even if it takes forever. I know he can. He has waited for her for four years he embarked on their relationship with her. I'm confident that he will wait his lifetime for her. Just for her. Because there is really no him without her.
And for the girl, I told her this when she said she wasn't sure that she could give him the chance to explain..."I understand completely. All I'm asking is that you hear him out. You can decide better when you're fully informed. A picture can say a thousand words and it just might happen that you are reading wrong ones. It is in silence that the deepest feeling are heard. But silence gives way to many unbidden thoughts to surface and haunt you. Hear the silence not the fears. Find the right words in thousands that the picture holds. That is all that I ask."
As for my ender, I told them both that they can see each other perfectly only when they perfectly see their imperfections.
I love you P & T!
Very much so!
posted by Andykins at 9/23/2005 05:17:00 PM
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